How To Overcome Self-Doubt — T. Harv Eker


How many of you ever,
ever, ever feel anything, any self doubt? I think if you’re not a robot you’re gonna feel self doubt sometimes. I do, everybody does. It’s normal. Your mind is what a survival mechanism is based in what? Fear, right? And so, it’s looking for what? What’s wrong. It’s looking for what’s
wrong with the situation, with yourself, with your idea,
it’s doing it’s normal gig. One of our programs is called and what we do in
the Secrets of Inner Power is we have to be able to have
another side to the bodyguard, like the bodyguard can’t
be running our life, right? We can’t have this fear-based
protective mechanism, the amygdala, the part of
your brain that is just like fear, fear, fear! It’s gonna be there, but you do you have to believe it all the time? Does it have to run your life? If it runs your life
you’re gonna be in fear. You have to have something
there to quote unquote conquer it, combat it, have another side, another voice maybe of reason. So, absolutely in our programs
of Secrets of Inner Power we have mottos, we use several mottos to go up against this voice. One obviously is thank you for sharing, but another one that we use, that I love and I want
you to write this down, I want to give it to you here, here it is. Listen closely. Doubt the doubt. If you’re gonna doubt something, you turn the traitor against the traitor. Shakespeare said, our
doubts are our traitors. So, if you’re gonna doubt
something, doubt the doubt. Say, there’s that doubt again. Here I had a good idea
and then there’s doubt. Starts creeping in, wow,
what if that doesn’t work, what if it’s a shitty idea? And you know what? I guarantee this. If you are the person that has ideas, you’re gonna have self-doubt
with those ideas, okay. The question, the difference
between successful people and unsuccessful people
is successful people are able to look at the
voice, listen to the voice, of doubting, the doubtful
voice, and go, I got you. Thank you for the alert. Thank you for the warning. Thank you for the, I’ve said this before, the amber light, the yellow light. It doesn’t mean stop. It’s not a red light. It means, oh, this could go
wrong, this could go wrong, this could be a problem,
so what are we gonna do? The successful people
writes down all of them and say I’m going to create the plan to make sure we encompass and
overcome all of these issues. I tell this story of one of the people, a girl that we had, a lady, we had on our marketing
team in my trading company. And she was Debbie Downer. Everything you said, she’d go, that’s not gonna work, that’s
not gonna work, here’s what. And we said, eventually,
my people would all say, get rid of her, she’s a downer! Everything that we say,
everything that you come up with, these brilliant ideas,
she’s got something wrong, this could go wrong, that could go wrong. I say, are you kidding? She’s fricking brilliant at that. That’s why we need her. We want her to be able to
say this could go wrong and that could go wrong and this could go wrong, and then what do we do? Put them on the whiteboard,
put them on the flip chart, and cover them one by one. And go, that could go wrong. Good idea. Got some good possibilities. What do we do to offset that? Well, we’ll need to do this or that. Or maybe we shouldn’t grow
that quickly right away. Maybe we should do this instead. Maybe we should start
small and start here. Very good, thank you for bringing that up. So take your doubts and
instead of stop signs, they’re just alerts that say, be careful, this could happen, that could happen. Write them down, put them down, and then logically,
intelligently go through every one of its objections
and its gonna say things like oh, you don’t know. You don’t have enough knowledge. You don’t know what you’re doing. You’ve never done
anything like this before. Thank you for sharing. So, what am I gonna do? I’m gonna get more
knowledge, that’s great. I’m gonna take a course,
I’m gonna read up on this, I’m gonna take weeks up on this. Someone might talk to me,
I might get a partner, I might, whatever it is, I’m
gonna get more knowledge. You don’t have the experience. Okay, I’m gonna start. When I start I’m gonna have
more experience, right? So, I have other experiences
that I could bring to this, but it’s always gonna put you down. It’s gonna tell you, you’re not enough. It always says you’re not enough. You’re not good enough for this. And where do you think that comes from? Yeah, that’s the protective mind. Stay here, stay here. Don’t do anything outside of the box, because if you do, you could get hurt. To the conditioned
mind, the devil you know is better than the devil you don’t. So, we’ll stay here where it’s not so good because at least we know this rock, we know this comfort zone. Even though it’s not good, we know, we’re familiar with it, we’re okay here. At least we’re alive. Great, but you’ll never,
ever, ever achieve anything. You’ll never be successful
because you keep on listening to that. So, take a nice, deep breath, say hey, thank you for sharing, and
I’m going for it anyways. Those are a couple of things. Now, one thing I wanna bring up. Who knows what the Latin
word for confidence is? Who can tell me the Latin
word for confidence? It’s confidera, which is
the Latin word for to trust. For confidence, what does that mean? You have to trust. Who do you have to trust? You have to trust yourself. Now, what do you mean, trust yourself? How am I supposed to trust myself? Number one, get knowledge. Learn, study, learn, study, experience. Start small. Whatever you’re gonna do. I always say think big, start small. I love the idea of starting small. Everybody says, well, you’ve
gotta raise 20 million dollars or 50 million dollars and get investors and get the big people
involved and, that’s great. One out of a hundred thousand
will be successful doing that. But you don’t know shit. You don’t know dick on a stick yet. What gives you the right
to even raise money? You don’t know anything. Start small. I say this all the time. Get in the game. Get your experience. Last thing about
confidence, to trust, right. Who do you have to trust? Yourself. Number one, by knowledge, but number two, I can handle it. Write it down. I can handle it. What do I mean by I can handle it? I can handle whatever comes my way. If people go, ah, this is terrible. Terrible pancakes, terrible programming. What do you do? You don’t cry about it,
you go, what was terrible? How would you like to see it? What would work better for you? This and this and this. Because people are usually
bitching and complaining and saying it’s terrible,
they usually have an idea of what they would prefer. They’re very vocal. The people that I learn
to learn from the most, they guide my courses, is the people who are bitching and complaining. First, I let them know,
thank you for that feedback. That’s great. Secondly, I go, is there another way you might be able to handle this instead of bitching and complaining? Maybe you could have given me the feedback of what could have been
better at the beginning. That’s something, maybe,
we could both learn. But thank you for that, that’s great. Make sure you understand
that I can handle it. I can handle it, I can move
with whatever feedback I get. And they then take the
next step from there.

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